If someone doesn’t truly want to change, there is nothing you can do to change them.

If someone is stuck in a destructive pattern, there is nothing you can do to help them if they don’t really want help. Even if they “say” they want help.

If they are doing and saying the same things they were yesterday, last week, last month, last year; the situation will continue.

If you keep doing the same things, you can not expect different results.

If someone really wants to change, you will see and feel them change either step by step or with a giant leap. This will lead to change, and you can help.

If someone has proven over and over again that they don’t really want to change, don’t want to heal, don’t want a different life or situation, do not expect change, no matter what they “say.”

Let them sit in their own shit. There is nothing you can do to help someone who doesn’t truly want help. Pray.

If they are not making any effort at all to change, nothing you can do will change the situation. Pray.